Tuesday 9 April 2013

No International Surrogate

I had a brief conversation with the clinic today and as suspected, the law does not permit me to bring over a surrogate to India for a transfer - in my case, a frozen embryo transfer. Such a request was a first for the clinic. Although this is disappointing news, it's finally nice to know that option is a closed door.

However, I still remain positive and hopeful that the law will change. So far everything points towards that based on various conversations. Sounds like in the next few months or so, we might hear some news impacting single persons. For now, as I do everyday, I focus on the positives in my life. I appreciate what I have versus dwell on what I don't have. I continue to dream and plan. I continue to follow the dreams of my fellow SCI clients - it is such an immense joy becoming a parent but it is also a great joy watching other deserving people become parents. I continue to recommend SCI to married straight couples and hope that new singles and gay couples can work with SCI down the road.

It's too early to say now (my daughter is almost 3 months) but even if things don't work out in India, I'm confident I will have a third child - as long as my aging body and mind can keep up! Seriously! LOL!

Thank you for letting me share this part of my world with you!


  1. Sorry to hear that option is off the table. What did they say would happen to the embryos?? I too am hopeful things will change, but there has to be some plan for the genetic material and embryos in limbo, and destruction is not the right answer!

    1. They are hopeful that the law will change for the better - to include singles in my case - so there was no discussion around the embryos. I'm not sure if there is a plan - if things change for the better, then it's a moot point. I think if things don't change, it's a bridge they will cross then. It would just make sense to me if we were able to get our embryos shipped to a clinic of our choice here on home soil. Of course, under the usual strict rules and regulations but at least it's another option besides destroying them.

  2. Just let the dust settles. I think they will revise their guidelines as they can not destroy the embryos just like that. Maybe they can see your surrogate as a woman who needs an egg donor and a sperm donor seeking for IVF treatment. I have met 2 very old women last year, they both went to India, stuffed themselves with embryos (not theirs nor their hubby's, but created with donated ingredients) and came back to Montreal preggo with twins.

  3. Really sorry to hear that, but let's hope India changes its rules fairly soon. The guidelines can't possibly remain as they are, as there are too many untidy loose ends, such as yours. All the best, N