Sunday 29 July 2012

The Journey Begins

Not too long ago, I did not have much of an opinion about surrogacy in India. However, after doing some research, reading some blogs, and connecting with a handful of individuals online, I believe pursuing surrogacy in India would be a great way to grow my family. Specifically, I have decided to work with Surrogacy Centre India (SCI) in New Delhi.

Within a matter of days, I completed my medical tests and applied for a tourist visa to India. I have the test results and should hear back about the visa some time next week. I have also connected with SCI and am in the process of selecting an egg donor. I've looked into flights and hotels. In fact, on a recent work trip, my cab driver - who was Indian - passed along the name of a local travel agency specializing in India. He said they have great prices so I will contact them once I get my tourist visa approved.

Although I already have a child via surrogacy and another child on the way, I'm very excited and nervous at the same time about this surrogacy journey into India. It's international so that makes me a bit nervous but SCI appears to be a great organization with dedicated staff plus the fact that other parents have taken this journey successfully helps build my confidence in taking this journey.

No, I wasn't going to leave you hanging - yes, I already have another child on the way. Why am I pursuing another surrogacy when there's already a bun in the surrogacy oven? Well, it's a bit complicated but it makes perfect sense in my mind and that's all the matters. My family will be complete with at least three children. I plan on taking a full year off from work but I would also like to progress with my career. Taking another year off in the future with baby number three will likely slow down my career progression to senior management ranks (e.g., VP or Chief Officer). If I would like to have a third child, this is the time to do it.

I am extremely lucky to have my family and long-time friends all live in town so resources are nearby and available if required. I'm quite aware that having a second let alone a third baby will come with its challenges especially as a single parent but I am fully committed to growing this family of mine. Being a parent is a dream come true for me... growing my family and giving my son siblings to grow old with would be another dream come true.

Thank you for letting me share this part of my world with you!


  1. Hi! Thank you for sharing your story. And congratulation! You are truly blessed. We are looking to have three children as well. We are starting out on this journey and can not decide on a clinic. Many  ppl  share their genuine experience with SCI.  But at the same, only SCI had clients exposé their bad experience. Here are just 2 examples, I read more...

    1. I wish you all the best in your pursuit to becoming parents of three! Thank you for your kind words - I am indeed blessed and remember it every day.

      Media loves covering bad experiences but even when they cover good experiences, the public takes them for granted. First of all, I don't believe everything I read these days even in the "news". I have close friends who work in Media all around the world, and even they admit, the angle of the story dictates what information to keep and what to leave out. I did ask about one negative SCI story I read online, got a response, and decided the importance of it for MYSELF. Also, even if certain things are true for ONE or a FEW people, it doesn't mean it will happen to everyone else especially when there are hundreds of positive experiences. Also, most Western surrogates do not approve of surrogacy in India so they're more than happy to poo-poo all or any part of it. Plus there are just some mentally-unstable people in this world - I can write a thesis on them so let's just leave it at mentally-unstable. Ultimately, no one or thing will be liked by all - that is normal.

      In the end, unless you hear about SEVERAL negative experiences, I think any of the MAIN clinics in India have good intentions and practices based on my research. For me, SCI had many satisfied clients, even those who were not successful in having a baby. My decision was NOT based on the fact that SCI clients were having babies but I read between the lines and was impressed with how clients (and their surrogates) were treated by SCI. I would recommend to anyone making an important decision to research, research, and research. Read as much as you can, talk to people who have taken the same road, take everything you read and hear with a grain of salt, find a quiet space to review the information, and make the decision that feels RIGHT to you and nobody else.

      Good luck with your decision and journey!

  2. Hi there....just reading more of your blog now. Great journey! We have a pregnancy underway in India now...but like you would like a large family. With India in limbo land...we did think of Canada...can you recommend a clinic you used in Canada?