Friday 18 January 2013

Good = 好 = Hao

With my Chinese origins, I was recently reminded that my life is "good" because I have a son and a daughter. Why is this? Well, if something is good, the Chinese describe it as 好 (hăo). The character 好 consists of 女 (nǚ) daughter and子 (zĭ) son. Yes, for those of you in the know, I am using Mandarin as my reference although I grew up in household speaking Mandarin, Cantonese, and Hokkien (including English of course). I'm not fluent but not uncommon for someone who arrived in Canada at the age of 3.

The reason why the appearance of daughters and sons in the character 好 means good or beautiful can be explained with the aid of the Chinese culture. Other websites describe it better but basically, in Chinese culture (generically speaking), parents find their children unconditionally good and beautiful and think that their children are kindhearted the minute they are born. Also, another explanation implies that a family is good because they have sons and daughters, because the children embody the continued existence and happiness of a family. Since time immemorial, the Chinese put much emphasis on the value of a family and kin, which is reflected in traditional practices of ancestor worship.

I'm sure these values are shared in other cultures around the world. Nonetheless, this provides an explanation for the link between having a son and daughter, and the why my life is good and beautiful, 好.

Thank you for letting me share this part of my world with you!


  1. I am 1/8 native american and I look alot to that side because there beleifs have affected me in ways only other native americans know about. Even now more that i have a little girl and she is a princess, and will always be in my heart. The great gods blessed me for they know I always wanted to love a woman but never could, and now i can love one uncondiationally. She is my blood and I will protect her until the day she finds a worrior prince to protect her. I wish you well on your surrogacy.

    1. Thanks for sharing, Michael. Hope all is well with your little one! I will return to SCI surrogacy one day but for now, I will focus on my new addition and family.