- finding the right surrogate
- finalizing the contract
- completing the tests and checks
- finding the right egg donor
- synchronizing cycles of surrogate and egg donor
- finding out how many eggs were produced
- finding out how many eggs were fertilized
- finding out if there is a pregnancy
- finding out the gender of the baby
- waiting for the birth of the baby
- bringing baby home
Of course, the above differs if you are doing surrogacy in India. In my situation, I believe there's a few surrogate waiting in the wings. Contracts are completing in a day by the sounds of it. SCI handles all the tests and checks. I selected my Indian egg donor quite quickly. Anything associated with preparing the egg donor and final results of stimulation are the same - you can't do anything to speed that up. Nor can you speed up the exciting yet nerve-racking two-week wait to find out if your surrogate is pregnant. The pregnancy itself will appear to drag on forever but when the baby is born, you will wonder where the time has gone and some will even want more time to prepare. Gender-wise, I found out with my son and will do so with the second - it would be nice having a surprise, which is the case in India. Regarding bringing baby home, this is where it takes longer given the DNA testing that is required as well as the distance and travel. My son was born in a hospital less than ten minutes from home. The second child is being born in a neighboring province.
In summary, there is a lot of waiting going on but for some, the longest wait of their life will come to a good end when they finally fulfill their dreams of parenthood when they hold their baby in their arms for the first time.
Thank you for letting me share this part of my world with you!